Actually I don’t really know what to write. My kids are already in bed long time ago, house is so quiet, but I am not that tired yet. Nothing is interesting on the telly as well. I suppose I can read my book, but I don’t feel like reading tonight. So… I am just going to mumble whatever comes to my mind and hopefully my brain will work it out, you are more than welcome to stop reading now or continue, it’s your choice 🙂
If you follow this blog long enough you would have known that the father of my children is working in oil and gas industry. The nature of this industry is often that the employee get to moved around the globe either with the family or not, depends on where the destination is and the condition. Anyway, the father of my children, has been on FIFO for quite a long time. I think since we came back to the land down under which is almost 10 years now, he’s been in FIFO. FIFO is Fly In Fly Out, normally is 28 days on 28 days off. The location can be offshore or onshore or in my husband case is office work with a bit of offshore/onshore. For the last two years he was on 14 days on and 14 days off, which was lucky. I could handle 14 on 14 off, though at the end of the second week I started to feel very lonely and very crazy. But 28/28??! It’s very tough!! I honestly don’t know how I am going to handle it, I don’t want to face it or think about it, actually. I’m trying to suppress it under my everything. For some people it’s easy for them to say, ‘ it’s ok you can do it, 28 days not that long’ I appreciate the empathy and support but hell yeah, a month is bloody long! Of course there is nothing I can do, it’s a done deal. I know it’s not an ideal situation for him and us. I am sure he misses us as much as we miss him. It’s hard for the boys not to see their dad on footy games or swimming competition, it’s hard for him not to see them getting awards at school, and not here on their birthday or basket ball games. But that’s life, it is not always easy and rosy.
The good thing about FIFO is when he’s home he’s home for a month too. We can go on holidays and I feel relaxed and sleep better at night! The not so good thing when he’s home is all my routines will be gone with the wind. Suddenly mummy becomes cruella de ville. Suddenly 9pm bed time become difficult, and training at 5 am is impossible! And suddenly mummy and daddy will have arguments. Oh dear God, please help me!
On Living in Australia
When I first moved to Australia I found it hard to make friends with Australian people. While they were really friendly on the surface, many of them already had a tight circle of friends from high school or university. It was hard to get past that first stage of being an acquaintance. I always had to make the first move, to try hard to be accepted. But when I became a mother, things changed a bit or I had changed, I wasn’t really sure. But, I suddenly made friends with some mums just because I sat next to them at the park, or we often bumped each other at the same swimming lesson or library. Especially when the boys were in the kindergarten I made special bonding with some other mothers that our friendship is still last until now, even though our children are not in the same school. So I learned that most people here are very fun-loving and always up for a laugh and help. Yet, there are little that snob and sour. And I don’t bother to even to get to know them.
Do you have favorite quotes? I have, I have many but these two below are my most faves!
The father of my children actually sent the 7 Rules of Life to me by email when he was away. He pointed out on number 4 especially for me, why? Because yes I often compare my life to others, I always think that other people have better life, better every thing than me. What I want they have and I don’t. But guess what, it is not true and it is not healthy to compare your life to others. So, note to myself; stop comparing. People don’t have perfect lives. It is a fact. Let’s be real. So take the good for what it is and count your blessing when you feel the green monster 🙂
On Social Media
Sometimes I think I would like to take a break from blogging and social net working. Because you know why, social media is like crazy aunty that will not stop visiting. Social media can be great for creating and maintaining relationship, but it can also torn into a wormhole of information which can distract your mind. It is nice to remember that the online world is at times just a facade, and that the real world outside is real, it comes with hugs and real people who make you laugh and cry and all the things that make us the messy human being that we all are. So, my advice is to find the people you really want to follow and that you gain from them, unsubscribe from the rest. I am learning to simplify and be mindful of the choices I make. Because simplify is happy, happy is good, right?
Okay I think I’m mumbling enough now. I need to hit the sack for I have to get up before 5, thing you do as a mother!
Good night from this part of the world!