in perfect world, when you’re married for long enough, by default you should know your better-half good enough, you understand her/his feelings or needs well enough, that’s what i thought anyway.
but the reality is, the longer you are in relationship, you become careless with your words so you forget your kind words. you are lazy to make an efforts that you forget the smallest act of caring is nice. and you become stubborn as shit so you don’t have a listening ear. you become too comfortable being who you are that you forget an honest compliment, a smile, and romance are actually exist and still need to be maintained. you become too busy with life and its complicated.
i used to wonder how come after such a long time a good marriage couple can be divorced. perhaps, one of those above statement can be one of the reason? it’s so different when you’re just a new couple either you are married or not. all words and gestures are still sweet like sugar. and then after a while, every thing become so mundane then things can go wrong or turn sour.
there are days in any relationship where you have to work at it. because there is no easy answer, no quick fixes to the day to day challenges and difficulties. relationships are hard. they take hard work to make them work and zillions of patience, understanding, and tolerance.
i am no expert at all. so i think just take a deep breath. and keep on learning. learning how to be a good partner, learning how to be lovers, and parents.
” what matters most is how well you walk through the fire ” – Charles Bucowski